- Don't discuss something while you're administering discipline. It's a transaction--you need to complete it and keep going. If you spend time talking about it, examining what happened, etc. then you are awarding them with attention. These kinds of things can happen after, but not at the time of a problem.
- Eye contact is huge. If your child is begging you for something then say no and look away--this effectively ends the conversation.
- If you do lose your cool and yell and scream then make it a point not to hold a grudge. Move on. Your children need to know that they are loved above all.
I feel like a complete ass writing about discipline, but this stuff has worked for me time and time again, and maybe there's something in here for someone else. Please ignore me if you need to!
But. . . if I didn't do a good job at explaining then please leave me a question--I'll answer as best I can.